New Year’s Resolutions: A Look Back Into 2019 & Forward to 2020
Happy New Year! It has been a hectic few months, and our presence on the blog has definitely been MIA. In truth, life happened. A lot of unexpected changes occurred that kept us away and occupied. However, we are back and thought it’d be important to write a post different than our normal travel blogs. We’ve hit a new decade, which meant it was time to set meaningful new year’s resolutions for this upcoming year while individually reflecting on 2019.
Melissa’s Reflections of 2019
Ever think to yourself that oh this year was YOUR year? Personally, I can’t confidently say 2019 was that one for me. Externally, it sure felt that way: I got a new job with greater learning opportunities, I moved out of Pacific Beach and now reside in Little Italy, I traveled and revisited places that hold some of my greatest memories. So, in that sense, 2019 was great. Internally, I experienced some losses and gains. I’ve always prided myself on being someone very comfortable with change. However, there were some changes this year I wasn’t necessarily ready for.
Being almost two years out of college made me wonder and question what I’m set out to do in this world. Two questions that trigger my anxiety are “when will I get there?,” and “how will I do it?.” A realization I had was that I am not quite there yet and that’s okay. When I take a look at some of my closest friends that seem to be exactly where they are meant to be while doing what they love, I have utter excitement and happiness for them, meanwhile questioning what I am doing wrong. These thoughts were making me very unhappy. In actuality, I’ve now learned how terrible of a mindset that is to have since we are all on our own path (even a path separate from my sisters).
Also, in the simplest form, quality over quantity. This motto applies in every aspect of my life. Quality of friends is far more important than quantity. I found this to be difficult considering my college experience was surrounded by friends in my sorority and in my major. A few reliable, genuine friendships are a lot better. I’ve quickly learned that holding onto friendships solely based on the previous history we shared is a waste of time.
Miranda’s Reflections of 2019
I would say 2019 was one of the greatest years yet. I finally felt secure and comfortable with who I am. It was also a big learning lesson for me personally and professionally. I accomplished everything I set my mind to: practicing more yoga, being more comfortable opening up to people (vulnerability is not a weak trait), and learning how to speak up for myself.
My biggest professional gain was taking a risk and leaving a job I enjoyed but knew my learning and growth opportunities were falling short. I put myself out there in a way I haven’t before and I can say now, it paid off.
My biggest personal gains were traveling to Europe and visiting new cities, learning how to be without Melissa (even though I don’t prefer it), and realizing my self-worth. Discovering who I am without someone I was born with can be challenging. Individuality isn’t something we are used to, but I believe the older we are getting, the more we are realizing how capable we are of accomplishing things outside of each other’s scopes.
Lastly, being an adult is tough. I’ve learned to say no to things I probably wouldn’t have back in my college days. Balancing my life socially and personally is something I’ve gotten good at. As hard as adulting can be, the amount I’ve learned about life and myself is more than what I learned in my 4 years of college.
2020: New Decade, New Goals
Truthfully, setting New Year’s resolutions and sticking to them never really worked out for us. We always thought it was a little silly. Why? Because life is always subject to change. Instead of setting goals that seem far fetched, we decided to create smaller goals that seem more plausible. Here they are:
1. Read a Book Once a Month
It has been some time since we last read a book for pleasure. It’s not something we are ashamed of – adulting gets in the way. For 2020, we’ve set our first goal to be reading one book a month with no genre in mind. Kind of silly to think, but we truly believe our vocabulary has shrunk and it’s time to get back into school mode. Book suggestions are always welcomed!
2. Be More Financially Responsible
Well, fuck. How do two become financially responsible when they got a real shopping addiction? On top of being Foodie’s? This goal will definitely be the most challenging for us since Apple Pay and Afterpay are TOO simple to use (damn you, BOTH). However, we are getting older and it’s something we need to learn to be better at. Being in our young 20’s is all about learning and growing. So, maybe next time we have extra $$$ lying around, we’ll carefully decide whether that should go into our savings, splurging on a trip, or making our way to the nearest Zara ;).
3. Reconnecting with Our Passions
Being full-time working professionals leaves us in routine-based weeks with minimal personal time. Because of this, we both feel like we lost some interest in things we are passionate about. After a long day of work, a hot yoga class and some TV before bed is sometimes all we can handle for the rest of our nights. For 2020, we’d love to spend more time practicing our languages, writing, and getting back into photography.
4. Turning Negative Energy into Positive Energy
It’s natural for everyone to have their highs and lows. We are not shy from that. A problem we both have is that we feed into each other’s negativity whenever we bicker and fight. It also does not help that we are both short-tempered. Learning how to channel our negative thoughts and energy into positive ones will be a challenging yet rewarding transition.
5. A New Scenery
At last, the biggest new year’s resolution will be a change of scenery. We are women that truly thrive when we are stepped out of our comfort zones and learn the most outside of it. It is a scary change, but something we truly feel passionate about pursuing. We hope 2020 will be the year of it, but we can only see. We won’t give too many details, guess you will just have to follow along on the blog for the journey! 🙂
2020 New Year’s Resolutions Await
For once in our lives, our goals set for this year seem to be meaningful and doable. What are some of your new year’s resolutions for 2020? We’d love to hear them, comment below! As always, thank you for reading and visiting The Twins of Travel.